Self Love

 • Practice daily self-care activities such as exercise, healthy eating, and getting enough sleep.

• Set boundaries and learn to say no to things that don't align with your values or goals.

• Practice positive self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.

• Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you.

• Take time for hobbies and activities you enjoy.

• Practice gratitude and focus on the things in your life that you are thankful for.

• Be kind and compassionate to yourself, as you would be to a friend.

• Remember that self-love is a journey, not a destination. Be patient and kind to yourself as you work towards a more positive self-image.

Marry Your Rapist

How on earth can a crime, a sin like rape be converted into something as sacred as marriage? Just for the sake of honour the society hands over the woman to a criminal, but you never know he might rape his own daughter in future just like the mother, then what? Would you ask the daughter to marry her own father? Or what if he goes on raping twenty more women, would ask him to marry each of them. Will marriage make him any less of a sinner or a criminal? How can marriage exonerate him from his crimes? A rapist needs to be punished and not married. Marriage won't make him a husband, he will always be a rapist. A husband's duties involve protecting his wife, a rapist doesn't have the psychological makeup to do so. these laws in various countries which allow rapists to marry the victim are just nonsensical and were designed by patriarchal societies who think that marrying the victim to the rapist will protect their honours. Maybe marriage might shield the scandal but a rapist will remain a rapist until punished and reformed and marriage definitely can't reform him. And in the name of marriage and honour, you ask the women to get raped every day.  He needs to get proper punishment, such stupid laws only encourage them to do such crimes. These lawmakers of such countries not only need to revoke such laws and give proper punishment to criminals but also provide proper assistance to the rape survivors. But just the changes in law will not help such victims, the societies need to change, instead of pointing fingers at the victims and their families they need to understand and support them.   https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/22/world/middleeast/marry-your-rapist-laws-middle-east.html?smid=tw-nytimesworld&smtyp=cur

Numb

If I could I would tie back the hands of time

To just once again listen to the whisper of that smile

And then maybe it will bring back the lost and divine

Wandering peace of my mind.

I am looking for you and you are looking for a place to hide

Tell me you won’t come along

And give me the strength to survive.

I have got to sail my way back

I am sick of chasing and running around

Somewhere along the bitterness

I broke an ignited dream and I left you astound.

Revealed my sins, and hopes succumb

Washed my hands off your memory

Till everything went numb.

Iphone 6 – Owning a Luxury

An Iphone is an accessory for both men and women, more than a mobile phone or an electronic gadget. The craze for buying the upcoming models of Iphone never goes down neither among youth nor the elite class of the society. Owning an Iphone is something you can flaunt and show off. The coming of a new model Iphone 6 has created a lot of buzz in town with a lot of speculations and expectation. But what more could you expect, you already have an Iphone.I India  Iphone pre orders have already hit the record breaking number of 4 million according to what is revealed by Apple. Even if the price of the Iphone is high the craze among the people for them is directly proportional to the price. The Iphone 6 plus is more of a phablet then just a phone with a sleek appearance, best camera, bigger size, longer battery and iOS 8, what else could you ask for. But you people might have to wait a little more for its launch in India, which has been postponed to November. So folks have a little more patience till you  get to flaunt your Iphone 6 this coming Christmas and new year.

Deepika Padukone's Cleavage-Important or not?

From past one week Deepika Padukones cleavage has become the talk of the town, whether its facebook or twitter, newspapers or television the cleavage discussion is on everywhere. So everyone is upset with TOI for using the caption “cleavage show” on one of the paparazzi picture of Deepika Padukone to which Deepika had tweeted, “I am a woman, I have got breasts and a cleavage, you  got a problem. Don’t talk about woman empowerment if u can’t respect woman.” And to this TOI replied,   “Its OK to drool over men’s bodies and its different when it comes to females”.  People have got eyes they can see and tongues to talk about what they see. You want to flaunt your body and then you don’t want people to talk about it and that too when you yourself are into show business. In showbiz celebs go out in front of the camera to flaunt some or the other thing and it’s not in your hands who notices what. And it’s unfair to talk about women’s respect when flaunting is what you do for promotions, media coverage’s and publicity. Moreover how does talking about woman empowerment in this case does justice to those women who actually are oppressed. When you take words like sexy, seductive and ravishing as compliments how was this caption even offensive. When they talk about women’s assets in item numbers, where do all the feminists go at that time.  And since you are a public figure you should be less sensitive to such things Everyone has a particular perspective about everything and till the time its not illegal everybody is entailed to a point of view. People now should stop discussing about the cleavage as we have some serious issues to talk about in India. We got save the women who are oppressed and stand for those who got raped instead of arguing over the cleavage of some celebrity.

Love or Arranged

Like most of the girls I grew up dreaming of finding the prince charming and fantasizing about true love. Always tried to find my perfect man in every guy I met, I never had much of a checklist for the perfect guy, like some of us but looked for someone who was financially secure and had a status in the society. Though I missed out on something called true love.  But mostly I fell for romance and flattery. Now when it’s the time to actually dive in even I am fed  up of my infatuations.  My parents have the line up of suitable guys ready. Although I am okay with idea of arranged marriage but somewhere living life with a random stranger makes me nervous. On the positive side I feel  someone  from your caste, your religion and your background and with parental approval can make things much easier in the longer run. Most of us are certain that our parents cant be the best people to choose our life partner but looking at my failed relationships I have to give it a shot. Maybe  I find that spark in someone they choose for me. Looking  forward to it as a platform to meet someone interesting. Marriage is a life time commitment but arranged marriage comes with deeper understanding , love and respect  not only between the couple but the two families. My parents had an arranged marriage and for me they are the happiest couple.  So I am hopeful to find my eternal happiness in someone they choose for me. 

Strange and Scary

Feeling  strange Feeling Scary

Wanted to live life like a fairy

Unaware of the visible reality

Life sometimes can be more of practicality

Want to make it simple, want to make it straight

Whether its right or whether its fate

Why life has to be blue and gray?

Make it shine, Make it okay

Let us bond and free our soul

Before its late, take control

Don’t feel strange Don’t feel scary

Opinions of folks always vary

Spread your essence and let all know

You are not strange and nothing below

Give love and seek love for all

Show passion and no one will make you crawl

So don't feel strange don’t feel scary

The world can be heaven and you can be a fairy.

A dream is a wish your heart makes when you're fast asleep. In dreams you will lose your heartaches. Whatever you wish for, you keep. Have faith in your dreams, and someday, your rainbow will come smiling through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep on believing, the dream that you wish will come true. -Cinderella

When Best friends become worst enemies..

Its sad when friends become enemies. People you trusted and had faith on turn their sides against u, talk bad about you, left you wondering "Was that really my friend once?" Your yesterdays best buddies are your today's enemies. It's so ironic how best friends just slip and they become enemies so dang quick. And its very truly said that"False friends are worse than bitter enemies." So is it that your friends who become your enemies were not actually your best friends they actually were your false friends  They were wrong people you choose to be friends with. What  have learnt so far is that "Don't judge people by their faces and don't start trusting them from the very first day". And do not reveal all your secrets to your friends for you never know when they will become your enemies.You can discover what your enemy fears most by observing the means he uses to frighten you. Above all things, never be afraid. The enemy who forces you to retreat is himself afraid of you at that very moment.

Love me now, hate me never, best friends forever!

Heart or Mind

There comes a time in your life when you must decide between what you feel and what you know. You must choose between your heart and your mind, between love and the truth. Sometimes, the love you feel will hide the truth from your mind; but seldom from your soul. The bond between your heart and your mind is the strongest and one will try and overpower the other at all times. But neither one, alone, or together, can overpower your soul, for they do not possess the ability, nor the strength. Only your soul can guide you, and when the time does come for you to make a decision, you must be prepared for an inner conflict between your heart and you mind, so painful it can only be overcome by the strength your soul can provide. This is when you must force yourself to realize that your heart and your mind are the only links to your soul; they are controlled by your soul, and can act as one when you allow your soul to guide you.

College

Maybe the time has gone, the faces, I recall. But things in this life change very slowly, if they ever change at all....The scary part being that we've all been hit with change lately, and it doesn't seem to have come slowly at all. Do you remember the day you left home? I'm sure that you do. But I'll bet that what you remember even more clearly were the days in the week before you left. You know......the days that you spent getting addresses, phone numbers, and email addresses and trying to figure out how to say good-bye to everyone that you've loved for as long as you could remember. Do you remember standing by your best friend's car one night, after midnight, trying to sum up the meaning of a friendship you'd managed to maintain through thick and thin for years? Do you remember how hard that was, to think of how to say good-bye to that one person? It was nearly impossible, wasn't it, to give them that one last hug and turn around and walk inside? I'll bet the part of what you remember was the night before you left, kissing your boyfriend or girlfriend good-bye one last time. Just knowing that you'd have to turn around and walk back inside was almost motivation enough not to leave. Stepping back to take one last look at that person you love--it's really scary. And you go and you tell yourself that you won't ever find someone new. You won't ever replace your old friends. You'll never falling in love again. It's really crazy,what kinds of things can happen when you don't mean for them to. You get to a new place full of strangers. You meet people who forget you. You forget people who you meet. But sometimes, you come across some extra ordinarily special people. They have tears to shed, too. They also left people that they love behind. They're still in love with that guy or girl back home where they used to live, and they all want someone to talk to. So you talk. Talk is good. You form bonds you never thought you'd form. You call your old friends and tell them about the new ones. Sometimes, they don't understand. Sometimes, you hurt their feelings. Sometimes everyone is a bit jealous. You miss your boyfriend. Or your girlfriend. One day you're sitting in the park, thinking about all that stuff you didn't want to leave, and a stranger sits down near you. Sometimes that person stays a stranger. Other times you talk to him or her. Sometimes you experience things you didn't want to ever happen. You become interested in a person that isn't your boyfriend or girlfriend at home. Sometimes college is really complicated. Sometimes you stay together, other times you break up. Sometimes you think you've done the wrong thing by coming so far away from home. And sometimes when you start thinking like this, it's time to make a change. So when this happens, you sit down and turn on your stereo, and that song "Leaving on a Jet Plane" from the Armageddon soundtrack is on, or The Eagles "Sad Cafe" song, and you wonder if you can still recall all the faces from your past. So, you pick up the phone and you call them all just to say, "Hi, I love you, I'm thinking about you." And then just as an after thought you say, "You know, I'm really learning a lot from college. I wish you would visit all of my friends. They would love you. And you would love them. They're very important to me." Because, after all this is college. And college is a growing experience. Growing experiences cause change is hard. But whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. So call your parents. Call your siblings. Call your best friend. Or your boyfriend or girlfriend. Or even your ex, if that's how it worked out. Tell them hello. Tell them that you miss and love them. And then, turn off your stereo, walk out of your dorm room. Go to a new friend's room and give them a big hug and say, "Thanks so much for being here. I love you." You learn a lot when you go to college. You learn that pulling an all-nighter means staying up all night to study for a test you will then sleep through. You learn to appreciate the taste of beer-the cheapest of all alcoholic beverages. You learn that you can roll out of bed 10 minutes before class and go to class looking like shit-and no one will notice or care. You learn youreally can do things for yourself without your parents looking over your shoulder--but you also learn you never realized how nice it was to have them there, just in case. More than anything, however, you learn how much your friends really mean to you. College friends come to mean a lot to you, but they can never compare your friends from home. Your friends from home teach you the meaning of friendship during your college years. Because you are apart from them you tend to express your feelings more --- you learn how much these people truly affect your life. You've got your best friend who exemplifies friendship-she calls at least once a week, sends email every day, and even sends you real mail. You feel like you never left each other...she still knows everything about you, and even over the Internet can tell when something is wrong. She teaches you that distance doesn't have to change a friendship at all. Then there is your other best friend. She rarely calls or writes and she doesn't do the email thing. At times you think she has forgotten about you...until you hear from her. You hear from her for the first time in almost two months-and nothing has changed. You are still you and she is still her --even though you never talk you are as close as ever, you are still the best of friends. You find yourself expressing to her just how much she means to you -- because you realize it now more than ever. She teaches you that true friends are friends in the soul...separation can tear them apart. Then there are those friends that you sort of lost touch with those last few months of high school and during the summer. You were busy, they were busy...but somehow, the magic of email has brought you closer together than you ever were in four years at the same school. You share secrets, heartache, and joy...it's another person who cares about you as long as you will care about them too. Away from all the pettiness of high school, you've finally formed an adult relationship...and you realize just how great a friend this person is suddenly, the people that you thought for sure you would lose touch with in college are the ones you're keepin closest contact with--and you miss them more than you ever thought possible. Sadly enough, there are also the friends that you were closest to in high school who drift too far for you to hold onto. You've both changed and suddenly you don't have much to say to each other. But these people teach you a lesson too they make you value the others, the ones you have stayed close to, that much more. These distant friends, though you miss them when you rarely think of them, show you who your forever friends really are-and they make you appreciate those forevers much more than before. College is rough. College severs some bonds and solidifies others...it puts a distance between you and the ones you love. But it teaches you so much. It forces your real friends to come to the front, while the rest take their places in the shadows of your memories. In college you lose some people -- but through real friendship and the strength of the soul (which is where real friends join as one) you keep the ones you will need most in your life. You learn the real meaning of the quote: "If you press me to say why we were friends, I can say no more than it was because she was she and I was I." The people who fit that mold are your forever friends....

Various Friends Throughout Our Lives

In first grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls. In second grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully. In third grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus. In fourth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan. In fifth grade, your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you. In sixth grade, your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed. In seventh grade, your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the Math homework from the night before that you had. In eighth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears. In ninth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there. In tenth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch. In eleventh grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom. In twelfth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go. At graduation, your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside, but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you. The summer after twelfth grade, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for college and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved. Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly, loves you!...

Reason, Season or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. Next! When people come into your life for a season, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people anyway; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life....

Secret of Life.....

"The secret of life is getting up early. The secret of life is staying up late. The secret of life is to try not to hurry, but don't wait." 

Hazrat Sultan_This is from where and whom i get my last name...

Makhdoom Sahib is said to belong to a family of Chandravanshi Rajputs from Kangra who had settled down in Kashmir and had risen to high positions in the court of Raja Jai Chand before converting to Islam.Makhdoom Sahib belonged to the Suhrawardi Sufi Silsila and his shrine on the slopes of the Hari Parbat in Rainawari commands a unique position for next to it is the Chhati Padshahi Gurudwara dedicated to the Sixth Guru of the Sikhs, Guru Hargobind Singh, who visited Kashmir in the reign of Jehangir, and on the western slope of Hari Parbat is the ancient temple of Sharika Bhagwati, considered the presiding deity of Srinagar. It is believed that Makhdoom Sahib spent long hours on the slopes of Hari Parbat in meditation and it is here that his disciples built his tomb upon his death. A hill venerated by Hindus, Sikhs and Muslims alike.

Love U Mom

Who ran to help me, when I fell ? And would some pretty story tell, or kiss the place to make it well. My Mother

Thoughts_Where do I put them..

My thoughts are hard to write out or even share for that matter. In my head it all makes sense, but in my mouth words refuse to form. Sometimes it becomes hard to find a word or form a sentence to express what’s going on in my head. I know I am right but don’t know how to tell people or make them understand that am right. It may not be about right or wrong all the time, it can just be an idea that suffers to be expressed but dies just in the mind as a thought. Does it happen with everyone or it’s just me? May be or may be not. But I would really want to change this about me and not let the thoughts die within me but instead speak them out, may be they form a beautiful sentence, a wise quote or rightful conclusion.

Life

                                          "Life has no limitations except the ones you make."